Spending some time alone/enjoying your own company is something that a lot of our clients struggle with. Many of us hate the feeling of loneliness, quickly fall into negative thoughts or simply get very bored in no time.
But it’s inevitable! From time to time, whether we choose to or not we have to spend some time alone…….
Being alone can be awesome! There is no need to be dreading it, no need to feel down about it…. In fact, we should be treasuring those moments! There are so many positive and constructive things you can do!
Don’t believe us? Here it goes:
1) Be Healthy
The good news is, when you have to spend some time alone, there is no one around to tempt you with delicious food! You are fully responsible for what you give you own body, you are in control! And regardless how much time you have on your hands, be it 15 minute, an hour, a day or a week, you also finally have some time to exercise, do your squats, go to the gym or even attend that body attack or dance class you always wanted to attend. Do it! You will thank yourself for it later….
Taking care of your appearance is often a priority that falls way behind when life gets hectic! Well…. Guess what, when you are alone, you can do that facial, get your nails done, or whatever it is you have been postponing times and times again!
Whatever it is that relaxes you….. Just do that! Have a bubble bath, watch a movie, catch up with your favorite series, read a book, meditate or simply catch up on your sleep! There’s nothing wrong with doing nothing from time to time.
4) Be Grateful
Take time to think about all the great things that happened to you, take a moment to be truly grateful. We all tend to get carried away with life and we very rarely take a moment to reflect on all the things that make us happy. How about you write down a few of them and take a real moment to appreciate them and say thank you!
When life gets busy, we tend to focus only on the people who are physically around. We unfortunately lose touch with that friend or that family member who lives far away…. Well, how about you use that time alone to reconnect with them? To ask them how they are doing, to give them an update on your own life, to remind them that you are here and that you care?
6) Review, Refocus
When I have some time alone, I always like to do a short review of my year so far and of the goals I set for myself. It’s always very beneficial to be honest with yourself, evaluate how those goals are doing and if necessary, refocus and write down a few actions to be taken immediately to ensure those goals are met! Also, have a look at your bucket list, check if there is anything you can make happen in a near future….. and if you don’t have a bucket list, write one!
7) Be creative
How about using your free time to reconnect with what you love doing? Anything that brings out your creativity …. Be it painting, writing, dancing, surfing, cooking, singing…. Anything!
8) Be Kind, Be Helpful
If you have some time to spare, why not giving it away for a good cause? Some charity work, a visit to the nearest animal shelter maybe? You don’t have to go very far to find people or causes who could use your help with something. It might be your neighbor, your grandma, a friend…. You don’t even have to leave your apartment, you can simply spend some time create some awareness about that one cause that is close to your heart!
9) Knowledge Is Key
When life gets busy, learning and self-development is also a priority that tends to fall behind. Use your time alone to learn something new. Read about a topic you always wanted to know more about, watch a few documentaries, catch up on what’s really going on around the world, research a country you know nothing about…… Feed your mind with new information! That will make for some great conversation later on.
You can finally plan & organize that gathering/party you always wanted to throw! Or why not plan a surprise for your favorite person? Big or small, it doesn’t matter…. Planning is great, it makes you look forward to something exciting! 🙂
Looking forward to spending some time with your own company yet? Go ahead…. Admit it 🙂 …. Being alone is not that bad….. It can even be extremely beneficial if you see it as an opportunity to create an even better you!
Here are a few additional quotes you might like:
“I restore myself when I’m alone.” – Marilyn Monroe
“In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.” – Laurence Sterne
“We live in a very tense society. We are pulled apart… and we all need to learn how to pull ourselves together…. I think that at least part of the answer lies in solitude.” – Helen Hayes
“Only in quiet waters do thing mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world” – Hans Margolius
“When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death – ourselves.” – Eda LeShan
“The happiest of all lives is a busy solitude.” – Voltaire
“We visit others as a matter of social obligation. How long has it been since we have visited with ourselves?” – Morris Adle
Emeline Omont / Founder, MomentuM Coaching & Consulting